I left church super frustrated today. Ryan is hunting this weekend and I took the kids to church myself. We were there early for Christmas program practice, and let's not forget it's also daylight savings. After church was a baked potato meal--yum-0! I debated about whether or not to attend: tired kids vs. not having to make lunch myself...always a toss-up. I decided to eat at church.
The kids sat contently munching on their buns (I know, buns as a side with baked potato...carbo load!) while I loaded up the spuds and they even ate pretty well. Aidan got a bit fraughtsy towards the end and I ended up having to hold him. (Someone said: looks like you could use an extra hand!... Yea, thanks for not helping though...) As soon as we were done eating some of the other kids started running around. (Side note: We have a VERY small church...not a lot of space for runnning...esp. while people are eating!) This is fairly common with kids in our church and I just am not a big fan (no offense fellow church goers!!). I am always quick to stop Olivia from joining in, especially today with all the hubbub. Of course, her over-tired self starts to throw a tantrum...loudly... and unfortunately, I am in a place where I have to walk through the whole room to get to the exit. And I'm toting Aidan too. So here I go through the room, Aidan crying under one arm, Olivia kicking, screaming, and crying under the other.
And I hear someone say: Good thing she doesn't have 3 or 4!
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I'm sorry. It's easy to feel judged by people's thoughtless comments. It's also easy to wonder why people don't jump in to help, especially since they can clearly see that you're sans hubby. :(
We've been having a rough week with Annika and it makes me wonder if people are thinking, "Dave and Sarah should NOT have procreated."
Just to assure you--you're doing a fantastic job and in a tricky situation with so many factors against you, you did the best you could and did the right thing. HUGS!
Oh Ehlan - I feel for you. People can be rude, no sugar coating that one - just remember this too shall pass! Sophie throw a MAJOR fit in Target last week - the looks I got, oh well. I needed the diapers or I probably would have just left. :) Hang in there - I personally think you are amazing! :)
I did not hear her tantrum, and I too do not like the running about, because then Gabe always thinks he can, but you know I have a hard time managing my kids, but today they actually did ok, until they ran outside with no jackets =( I feel your pain with the whole church thing, I must tell you, I usually always leave church sundays crabby, don't know why, but I think just because people don't get it there, so I feel for you, and hope things get better!
That would have frustrated me too. Whoever made that comment certainly has never been outnumbered by children, or if they have, it was so long ago that they are now senile or simply judgemental and mean.
I think you are brave for going to church alone. I probably would have stayed home in my pajamas and popped in a video. You're a better parent than me. :)
Good grief, that's not fair. I'm so mad on your behalf right now. Especially after you won me over by using the word "fraughtsy"!
Oh boy.
Just what you needed that day, huh?!
seriously!?! And that was at church where you are supposed to have a "family" of support. Argh. I don't want to judge your church, but that just makes me so mad!
Rest assured, we all have those days (some of us have quite a few :)! I feel for you!
Whoa! I'm sure it was someone who has forgotten, or never experienced the challenge of children!
So much Karmel criticism going on in the comments above! It certainly is a unique church community, and we can always work on being a better family.
That's when you should've dropped the squirmy/screaming children, straightened you clothes and hair, looked anonymous commenters in the eyes, smiled and said, "Oh, have I mentioned? I'm pregnant -- with TWINS."
Um, but that would be mean, spiteful and not very Christianlike... Way to keep walking. :)
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